We often hear the phrase, “just let it go”, like it’s so simple. Like if we just dropped the baggage from our minds, from our hands, from our life, we’d be all better. And that’s true. But it’s just not that easy. So how do we do that? The easiest way to begin is to think of the Serenity Prayer:
“God, Grant me the Serenity
to Accept the things I cannot change.
The Courage to change the things I can.
And the Wisdom to know the difference”.
Think of it, say it, memorize it. And then explore it a little deeper.
What CAN’T you change? You can’t change the family you were born into. You can’t change the trauma you endured as a child. You can’t change the fact that you first experimented with drugs or alcohol at the age of 12. You can’t change other people. You can’t change other people. You can’t change other people.
What CAN you change? You can change your surroundings. You can change who you spend time with. You change your boundaries, your dreams, your hopes. You can change your job. You can change your mind. You can change your opinion. You can remain open to learning and unlearning habits. You can change your reactions to other people. You can change your religion.
And the wisdom the know the difference? Well, that comes from prayer, reflection, and an honest look at your life.
Anything that falls in column A (aka the things you CAN’T change)— that is what you LET GO. And once you let go of all that stuff, the rest of your world opens up.